Priscilla Barnes

You should be cold or hot.

Why? Because being lukewarm prevents you from creating values.

And until you create firm values, you will never know if your actions are in line with your values.

“But, I don’t want to offend.”

In ten years, do you think that you will care about who you might have offended if you had just made a decision that was in line with your goals?

Here’s why most people can’t make up their mind.

The average person consumes two hours and 27 minutes of social media a day (1). (My guess is it’s much more than that.)

How much time does the average person spend holding themselves accountable for their actions?

If you spent 5, 10 minutes, TWO minutes a day, reflecting on the actions you took yesterday, and analyzing if they are in line, or not, with your goals, do you think you’d feel as frustrated?

Most people today are so concerned with fitting in, doing what other people are doing, missing out, that they aren’t doing the few things they need to do to optimize their health and wellness.

Most people today are so concerned with having a perfect course, that they are terrified to see that they made one mistake.


Once you learn the life-altering mentality that making mistakes is part of the course, you will be able to truly succeed.

In my own life, I’ve had many failures. I failed a class in the ultra competitive nursing school, the University of Texas at Ausin. Only to retake it, pass, then fail another one. I then failed the state boards exam, NCLEX, six times!

Those struggles made me stronger and allowed me to pursue a second degree I was also passionate about, but never would have had the time for, Spanish.

In the years after my father had a stroke, I ran myself ragged. I felt like a failure as my body shut down with stomach pain, nausea, fatigue, and a missing cycle. (Read more about caregiver syndrome here.)

It pushed me to pursue a more holistic approach after most doctors left me feeling empty handed. I now am empowered with Hair Tissue Mineral Analysis as a result that changed my life and is constantly changing my clients’ lives.

I felt like a health and wellness failure after successfully getting my cycle back and healing my body, but realizing I had gained 20 pounds during the process.

But this will only help me help others even more. And during these times, despite the mental struggles, I made sure one thing was true: I stayed true to my values.

Although needing to eat 2500+ calories and take a break from running, I ate nutrient dense food, moved my body daily, and prioritized an anti-inflammatory approach to life. I wasn’t eating a sleeve of oreos and downing coka-cola to get the job done. I made choices in line with my values. And for that reason, I’m proud of my struggles.

Consider airplanes.

If they allowed one negative feedback to be a sign of failure, we would never get to where we need to go. Most flights would end before arriving to the destination.


Because they are constantly receiving feedback and adjusting based on that feedback.

“But in fact, the plane is off course at least 90 percent of the time. Weather conditions, turbulence, and other factors cause it to get off track. However, feedback is given to the pilot constantly, who then makes course corrections and keeps coming back to the exact flight plan, bringing the plane back on course.” - Stephen R. Covey

We are no different.

Even though I failed class after class, I was still moving forward.
Even though I failed the NCLEX, I still had graduated.
Even though my body shut down, I was still getting up and helping others.
Even though I gained weight, I was healing my body and choosing nutrition and movement in line with my values and preventing disease.

We live in a world that doesn’t promote mental, physical, and personal wellness. We have to fight to stay on the course.

How can you know to stay on the course unless you:

  1. Know where you are headed.

  2. Constantly assess your course and course correct.

Be confident on where you are going. And look in the mirror (don’t forget the rearview mirror, too), to assess if your actions are in line with your goals. Need help doing so? Set up a phone call to discuss what you need to prevent disease and hit your goals by clicking here.

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